WMC EDUCATOINAL COURSE: GRIEF RECOVERY

Wholistic Healthcare

Motivate, educate and assist groups’, corporations’, organizations’ employees/students and staffs with self-identity (self-acceptance) with their personal and professional healthcare plan as it relates to them as whole persons (spirit, soul, and body). The healthcare initiate within the employees’/students’, staff members’ and entrepreneurs’ spirits, entwine within their soul healthcare choices (mind, will, emotion, imagination) and visually portrayed within their physical being (attitude, character, personality, actions, deeds and appearance) within their professional and personal environments.
Wholistic or Holistic
Wonderfully Made Inc. offers all population professional, and personal wholistic healthcare information which is rooted upon God’s dimension of wellness. We believe a better term for developing and maintain healthy lifestyles is wholistic versus holistic. You may ask why? We appreciated you asking and giving us an opportunity to explain. Our well-being is “rooted in maintaining a balance between mind and body” (wholistic) “versus one in lordship over the other” (holistic) (Weems, 2018, p. 92). “God’s wellness plan permits His people to worship and serve Him with a Wholistic fitness of body, mind, and soul”. On the other hand, society’s holistic lifestyle is rooted upon the “concept of holism in relation to wholeness; yet, the stronger components rule in relation to one’s life circumstances” (Weems, 2018, p. 92). Remember, we are all free will agents, we have a preference on which wellness term to use.

Dimension of Wellness: Core Values
Spiritual Healthcare
To journey with the school, company, group or organization as they establish peace, unity, and harmony within their lifestyles through their connections and interactions within their belief systems. We will provide the employees/students with health and wellness awareness and wholeness within their spirits as they continue to be productive employees/students and family members.
Soul Healthcare
To journey with the staffs and employees/students as they comprehend that soul care is essential for inner healthcare maintenance regardless of their faith base. Help them to understand themselves, cope with their emotional feelings as they interact with others and situations as they deal with the what and why do I feel the way I do. Mental health sessions relate to how they can be productive and fruitful within their vocations, careers, schools, social interactions, family lives, church ministry and community wellbeing while going through various seasons of life challenges. Help the staff, volunteers, employees/students to understand the need to enhance their minds through scholastic, cultural, and community activities to be able to provide quality services within their sales industries. Also, the therapeutic intellectual counseling sessions will help them to learn how to utilize a learning resource to gain knowledge and improve skills in order to experience life more fully and to enhance their employers’ core values with integrity, empathy and effectively serve their clientele.
Physical Healthcare
The therapeutic sessions will illustrate how their lifestyle choices affects their physical appearance, wellbeing, and productivity. This will help the employees/students to comprehend how their behavior has a significant impact on their physical wellness, healthy habits, and work and school performances. The physical healthcare sessions will help the staff members, employees/students to understand the importance of adapting healthy habits (routine check-up, balanced diet, strength training, cardiovascular, rest and relaxation, stretching). Finally, to empathically and compassionately help the employees/students to understand the need to avoid destructive habits such as drugs, sexual misbehaviors, alcoholism, hatred, and unforgiveness which can lead to low morale, loss of sales, slow job and school performance, poor production, and missed promotions.
Musical Therapy
Through anointed inspirational songs and movements, our musical therapist, motivates and encourages employees/students and staff members through their emotional, physical, cognitive and social wellbeing challenges.

WMC Educational Course: Grief Recovery
Wellness made clear through WMC Educational blogsite will motivate, encourage, educate and enhance our subscribers personal and professional wholistic awareness within the following wellness dimensions: spiritual, soul, physical and musical therapy. This WMC educational blog will focus on grief recovery wellness within relationships environments.

THERE IS HOPE

You’ll get through this.
It won’t be painless.
It won’t be quick.
But God will use this mess for good.
Don’t be foolish or naïve.
But don’t despair either.
With God’s help, you’ll get through this.
By Max Lucado’s
Note: Resource information was taken from-

You’ll Get Through This: Hope and Help for Turbulent Times

Grief Recovery

The grieving process involves a multitude of feelings that fluctuate according to one’s emotional mood swings. These emotions should not be categorized as good or bad; however, the person should enter soul care in order to recognize, accept and deal with his or her emotional state within his or her bereavement season. Grief recovery is not limited to death of a loved one. One can grieve over (but not limited to) death, divorce, financial hardships, relationship breakups, unemployment, and health diagnosis.

Bereavement Process

Soul care begins with allowing oneself to grief according to their schedule (emotional state) versus grieving as if everyone goes through the same stages of loss, an orderly fashion. People cope with the loss in many ways. Some journey down the path called personal growth even though they are or may experience pain, hurt, and suffering. The person’s grief period depends upon his or her personality, cultural and religious background, and the relationship he or she had with the person who died. One of the most difficult experiences a person can go through is accepting and overcoming the loss. Grief is the normal emotional response to a loss. It can be traumatic and leave one with a deep sense of isolation and despair.
Mourning is a process; not a weakness but rather a form of healing. Additionally, despite a new openness in our society to talk about death or loss, many people are not prepared when the loss occurs. Because it is so difficult to work through the grieving process, it is not uncommon for families or individuals to get stuck in the process. Mourning takes time and sometimes can become troublesome as people encounter emotional blocks. When these blocks occur, people can unknowingly remain focused on their anger, denial bargaining, depression or experience uncontrollable tearfulness. Through prayer, spiritual belief, supportive relationships, education, bereavement counseling, or support groups, the grieving person can be helped to regain their sense of balance and carry on with their lives.

Note: Educational Sources: taken from the following www.hospicenet.org and www.ferfolia.com.

Purpose for Grief
Grieving over loss helps the person to move beyond one’s shock, disappointment and reactions to the shocking news in order to face the situation and start to work within the adaption phase (Wright, 2011, p. 85). The grief person is encouraged to work through the grief versus delaying the process. Delayed grief often results in “a residue of delayed anger” (Wright, 2011, p. 85). Grieving is hard work and not a journey to do in isolation since it opens the door to an emotional roller coaster ride. The mood swings are needed in order to help learn to say goodbye to whatever was lost (death, job, health issues, financial status, relationships, age transitioning). Below the ball of grief illustrated the various feelings one encounter during the grief process. It is normal to experiences various emotions.

Note: Educational Source: www.hnormanwright.com.

Understanding Grief

Grief, with its many ups and downs, lasts far longer than society in general recognizes. Be patient with yourself. Each person’s grief is individual. Crying is an acceptable and healthy expression of grief and releases built-up tension while going through your life challenge. Cry freely as you feel the need. Physical reactions to the death of a loved one or job loss, divorce, and financial hardship can include loss of appetite or over-eating, sleeplessness, and sexual difficulties. You may find that he / she has very little energy and cannot concentrate.
A balanced diet, rest, and moderate exercise are especially important for you at this time. Avoid the use of drugs and alcohol. Medication should be taken sparingly and only under the supervision of your physician. Many substances are addictive and can lead to a chemical dependence. In addition, they may stop or delay the necessary grieving process. Friends and relatives may be uncomfortable around you. They want to ease your pain, but do not know how. Take the initiative and help them learn how to be supportive to you. Talk about your loss in a healthy way.
Whenever possible, put off major decisions (changing residence, changing job, etc.) for at least a year (dealing with loss of a loved one). Avoid making hasty decisions about your loved one’s belongings. Do not allow others to take over or to rush you. You can do it little by little whenever you feel ready. During the grieving process one may feel he / she has nothing to live for and may think about a release from this intense pain. Be assured that many bereaved and grieving persons feel this way, but that a sense of purpose and meaning does return.
The pain does lessen. You will get through this season of grief. Guilt, real or imagined, is a normal part of grief. It surfaces in thoughts and feelings of “if only”. In order to resolve this guilt, learn to express and share these feelings, and learn to forgive yourself and to let go of the cramped up negative emotional feelings. Anger is another common reaction to loss. Anger, like guilt, needs expression and sharing in a healthy and acceptable manner.
Children are often the forgotten grievers within a family. They are experiencing many of the same emotions you are, so share thoughts and tears with them. Though it is a painful time, be sure they feel loved and included. Holidays and the anniversaries of your loved one’s birth and death can be stressful times. Also, it can be a stressful time if one sees themselves within the same circumstances a year later if they are constantly dwelling on the loss or setback.
Loss of income, separation, divorce and a loved one’s death often causes the bereaved or grieving persons to challenge and examine his / her faith or philosophy of life. Don’t be disturbed if you are questioning old beliefs. Talk about it. For many, faith offers help to accept the unacceptable. It helps to become involved with a group of persons having similar experiences; sharing eases loneliness and promotes the expression of your grief in an atmosphere of acceptance and understanding.

Acceptance

“The most beautiful people I have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle, known loss, and have found their way out of the depths. Those people have an appreciation, a sensitivity, and, an understanding of life that fills them with compassion, gentleness, and a deep loving concern…. Beautiful people do not just happen”. By Historian, Ray, Nichols.

5 Ways to Stay Healthy Through Grief, by Rachel Girardi, MsC

1. Experience the grief: It’s common for people to try to distract themselves when they are very sad. They fill their days with hobbies, work, general busy work and anything that will distract them from feeling. I did this initially too, but it only prolonged my grief. Eventually, it needs to come out. One of the greatest tools I used was to allow myself to be sad. If I needed to cry, I did that. If I needed to pull my car over to the side of the road and just close my eyes and let the tears come, I did. Grief can’t be ignored. It will just wait for you until you are ready to experience it, and then eventually, naturally over time, it will lessen and retreat.
2. Bolster yourself with support: During periods of grief, there are times you need to be alone but also times where having social connections will be very important. Pick people who know you well and will give you the space and support you need when you need it. If you aren’t comfortable going to people in your life for support, look into finding other sources of support, whether it’s a coach, therapist or social worker, to talk to and help you through this time.
3. Keep your body moving: Exercise is a good thing and moving your body will produce feel-good endorphins and often help clear your mind. While all of these are great things, it’s especially important in extreme times of stress to pay close attention to how your body feels. Even if you don’t consciously feel stressed, you may find that during your workouts your body feels less strong, has reduced energy or recovers more slowly from exercise. If you are noticing these things, take it back a notch until you feel better. This might mean lifting lighter weights or doing lower impact activities like walking or swimming in the meantime. If you find yourself especially sore after a workout, take a break. When under stress the body is at a much greater risk of injury so don’t persist if you feel physical pain or extreme fatigue. Move your body regularly, but make sure not to overdo it and listen carefully to its messages.
4. Focus on foods that heal: When we are feeling sad, we crave comfort foods and will instinctively gravitate to foods with high levels of sugars and fat. While they may make us feel better temporarily, in the longer term they will wreak havoc on blood sugar, body composition, and mood. Instead, focus on foods that will provide the same comfort without the downfalls. Identify the flavors and textures you crave and then find their healthier counterparts. For example, if you like mashed potatoes opt for mashed cauliflower instead. Go for air-popped popcorn over potato chips, plain Greek yogurt with frozen berries over ice cream and oatmeal with almonds and cinnamon over muffins. By focusing on foods that provide nourishment as well as comfort, you will help heal your body and feel good while managing to stay on the healthy course you were on prior to your grief.
5. Be kind to yourself: More than anything, remember that this time will pass, and the moments of sadness will get shorter and further apart. In the meantime, give your body, your mind and your heart the good fuel it needs to get better, whether that’s rest, movement, tears or comfort. Cut yourself some slack and be kind to yourself.

Summary
The path to lasting hope and healing while enduring the grieving process is to be cautious and not get caught up in the fast-pace of society by suppressing, ignoring, or avoiding one’s soul care (thoughts, feelings, and will). We can engage in grieving God’s way by engaging in the healing wholistically (spirit, soul, and body). As you ask yourself, how long will I grieve? The answer is as long as it takes since it is an ongoing process according to one’s unique time schedule. The grieving process will be lighting as one continues to tone one’s muscle, energize one’s psyche which will comforts one’s soul.

Scripture

As we start on our journey,
“Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil; for You are with me. Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me” (Psalm 23:4).

As we continue through our grieving season,
We must “trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He shall direct your paths” (Proverbs 3: 5-6),

As we continue on our grieving journey,
“Do not let your hearts be troubled, you believe in God, believe also in me. My Father’s house has many rooms. If that were not so, would I have told you that I am going there to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am. You know the way to the place where I am going. Thomas said to Him, Lord don’t know where you are going, so how can we know the way? Jesus answered, I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me” (John 14: 1-6).

Remember, every day brings new light, feelings, thoughts, and to remind ourselves that
“blessed be the God, and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in an affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God (2 Corinthians 1: 3-4).

Self-Quiz

Take this time to quiz yourself on the following:

1. How can you find, keep, and maintain hope during the grieving process?
2. Define grief and bereavement.
3. What are some ways to help you understand grief?
4. Define the Tangled Ball of Emotion
5. List the 5 Ways to Stay Healthy Through Grief.

Self-Care

God, family, friends and mentors can not take care of us unless we allow Him and them to work with us as we choose to maintain a healthy lifestyle as we work through our grieving season. Let us take this time to engage in self-care and self-aware through relaxing breathing meditation and maintain our grief recovery work-sheet journal.
Relaxing Through Breathing

First, let us just relax. Close our eyes. Feel the speed of our heart rates as we focus on our breathing pace. If we are feeling any muscle tension throughout our bodies, just inhale and as we exhale release the muscle tension. Let us try this for several seconds. We are inhaling God’s peace and exhaling feelings of anxieties and frustrations. Second, let us take captive every thought. Let us ask ourselves why am I thinking these thoughts? If we need to address issues, let us do this in love and move forward. As we dwell over our circumstances, let us accept responsibility for what we can change, release what we cannot not change and accept where we are on our grieving journey.
Grief Recovery Work-Sheet Journal

We can measure the progress we are making on our grief recovery journey by identifying certain feelings and behaviors which have come about as we feel better. Let us take the time to complete the following statements to discover those areas in which we have progressed.
1. I’ll always remember the happy/funny time when grieving
2. I feel hopeful about
3. I am maintaining a fitness program
4. I am focusing on healthy foods
5. I am surrounding myself with a healthy support system
6. I am dealing with the acceptance of
7. I am experiencing and accepting grief in the following areas:

References

Brownley, Margaret. 2012. Grieving God’s Way: The Path to Lasting Hope and Healing.Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson Publication.
Ortberg, J. (2010). The Me I Want to Be: Becoming God’s Best Version of You. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan.
Weems, F. R. (2018). God’s Divine Wellness Plan. Cleveland, OH: Fredina J. Usher-Weems.
Wright, H. (2004). Experiencing Grief. Nashville, TN: Broadman & Holman.
Wright, H. N. (2011). The Complete Guide to Crisis &Trauma Counseling: What To Do and Say When It Matters Most! Grand Rapids, MI: Bethany House Publishers.

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